Screen-Free Summer, Week 1




happy happy happy summer, friends!
i am l-o-v-i-n-g summer.
seriously.
i feel like my deep-down inside self needed summer. the freedom of no more school. barefeet. skirts. coffee and my Bible outside in the mornings.
 hallelujah, summer.

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We're trying to go screen-free with the kiddos this summer.
not because I have some major issue with electronics or tv.
Just because it's summer -they need to be OUTSIDE:
playing, creating, imagining.

Childhood Unplugged!

I think i'm rebelling a bit from the Eternal Winter we just had,
as well as how hard the past 6 months or so of our lives have been - 
we've kinda been in survival mode, and we need to get out of it. ;-)
and, our kiddos grow up way too fast.
they're 5 and 7, and I feel like our summers of "little" kids are nearing an end 
{reaching for Kleenex now!}
so I just want to enjoy every single summer sunshine moment.
minus screens!

so, i've been trying to plan fun things just to do a summer-o-fun.
i'm going to try to keep track, just for fun, of what we do.
 and, you  know, if I'm announcing our screen-free-ness to the blog-world, t
hen, ya know, we better do it. 

{and it may be just the grandparents that are interested in this stuff. sorry if it's completely boring. i know this screen-free stuff is different than my normal blogging voice!}


so, Screen-Free Summer,
week one
{June 1-7}:

{Monday}
This was our first real day of summer break.
holy summer break, batman.
I didn't realize how much the pressure of school was wearing on me until it was over.
although I love our hybrid school 
{home 3 days/week, at school 2 days/week}
the back-and-forth of it all wears me out.

so, the feeling of truly nothing to do was so, so, so nice.

we had sweet friends come over to play.
 their oldest son is about Grant's age,
and they're adorable together.



I happened to have the stuff to make sparkly glitter slime, 
and that was even more fun with friends.


the boys {who actually made blue slime} took it outside and threw it at each other,
because, ya know, that's what boys do. ;-) they even invented a brand new word for the slime!

here are the directions.  It really does feel like slime while you're mixing, but then it hardens into this rubbery blob.  it's not like playdough where you can keep squishing it - i'd say it's more the mixing that's the fun part. and, you know, throwing it at friends. ;-)

Monday afternoon we went to the library to sign up for the summer reading program.
I'm so, so, so excited about it this summer because it's the first summer that Grant can really, really read. like, a lot, by himself. and, if we're not watch TV, what better thing to do than read, right?

we sat and read in the library, 
and it was so fun to see this across the table from me as I read to Gracie.
I'm trying to get Grant to read an hour a day, and I'm trying to read to gracie the same.

Grant reads about 15-20 minutes in bed in the mornings before he leaves his room,
about 15 minutes around lunch time, 
and about a half an hour before bed.


whew. day 1, screen-free summer, down.

{Tuesday, June 3, Day 2:}

we had a gift card to my favorite breakfast place, Bob Evans, 
and because of some unique scheduling situations we decided to use it Tuesday morning!
gracie went like this.
i mean, seriously! cuteness.


after breakfast the kiddos and I went to Meijer (a grocery store for you non-midwest people)
 to pick up a few things.
we also let Grant pick out his mega-monster-crazy-big Lego surprise,
that if he reads an hour a day until school starts,
he'll earn.
he's way excited about it!


 then, since it was hot out, 
we came home and broke out our water toys!

the cuteness continues! i die.


this water table has served us well! we received it when the kiddos were both toddlers, 
and we still use it! 
Gracie uses it to give her dollies a bath, of course, and Grant uses it to fill up his guns and super-blasters.
  


their fave water activity is to throw the hose over the slide.



i made these sponge water balls.
directions here.



i used twine though (like bakers twine)
which was extremely better than the floss.
i couldn't get the floss to tie at all!
the sponge balls were fun, but the kids didn't play with them as much as I thought!
 I think if we had friends over and they were throwing them at each other more a la water balloons, they'd be a hit! and they're super cheap.

by about 3:30 in the afternoon on day two of this crazy summer goal i had I was exhausted! 
but, so, so happy to be playing and not screen-timing.

 {Wednesday, Screen Free Day 3:}

our sweet daughter grace abigail has been cyclically sick with extremely high fevers, leg pains, and nothing else since January. it took several rounds of sickness to start connecting the dots, but i started finally realizing that the same thing was happening over and over.

{poor girl is tired SO much!} 


so, wednesday we saw a specialist who's doing a ton of blood work on the poor girl.
she has to have blood work twice a week for the rest of the summer. 
poor thing!


she ended up with more-than-a-bit of candy from the hospital gift shop to try to help my momma guilt feel a bit better.


that night, we played this fun game with grandma!
so, so, so silly and fun.


stuff like
{crab walk backwards to the kitchen sink}
if you have an elementary aged-boy, he'd love it!
grandma was glad she lucked out and got out of crab-walking ones and just had to penguin walk. ;-)

{Thursday, Screen-Free Day 4:} 

we played at home in our jammies 
{the kids were playing SO NICELY all day! fort-building included!}
and then about 4 o'clock, I was TIRED.
tired, tired, tired.
and the hubs wasn't going to be home until late.

so, I did what I hadn't done since they were toddlers and I just needed them to be strapped in and quiet for a few moments:

we loaded up and hit the drive-thru for supper!
grant ate then entire cheeseburger and 8 chicken nuggets from wendy's.
grace at like 4 fries.
i got the new espresso latte frapuccino from Starbucks.
holy moly good!

we returned home to this.

whew.
and then ended the day by blowing bubbles on the porch,
which is always a good end to a summer day, right?





{Friday, Screen-Free Day 5:}

today was the first day that Grant didn't wake up and ask to watch a show 
which he usually had been doing in the morning.

it was national donut day!
so, we did our civic duty!



{Saturday, Screen-Free Day 6:}

We happened to find out that the small town near us had a parade,
so we went!
the kids, believe it or not, had never been before.
they didn't know they'd get candy thrown at them,
and were over-the-top excited.

it was a beautiful Saturday morning,
and it was just so nice to be out together
{Matt usually works on Saturday mornings},
and the kids got way-too-much candy.


I went to a tea at church Saturday afternoon,
and my amazing, can-build-anything husband built this water-fall frame {Bike Wash} for me from this idea I had shown him.



it goes over the sidewalk and sprays water down!
it is SO FUN.
the kids LOVED it, 
and it's crazy cheap. 
it, unfortunately, hasn't been warm enough to get it back out past the initial use, 
so we're all super excited for heat again.


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whew!
what a week!
we're having a blast,
and just loving summer.
i am LOVING the fact that we're screen-free.
now, Matt and I are still watching the one show we like {24},
and I'm watching my re-runs of Law & Order or whatever while I fold laundry or do dishes,
but I've limited my social media time to only when the kiddos are in bed.

it's nice to be a bit unplugged.
summer, unplugged!

we'll see how I feel about all of this screen-free busines in a couple of weeks.

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a few ideas on my list for the next few weeks, if you want some inspiration for a screen-free, or screen-less-than-normal summer of your own. I know that these aren't like, rocket science, but I just want to do some small thing every day to have super fun with these precious kiddos of mine.



i'm starting to save my eggs now for this! and to crack them in a specific way on the top. I think it'll take several weeks of eggs to get enough for the kids to have enough paint to have fun for longer than a minute.


what are your plans for the summer? would you go screen-free? think i'm nuts? or brilliant? ;-) maybe a bit of both?


will post next week with Screen-Free Week 2 updates!


When the Fear and Doubt Creep in




after I posted something on instagram (find me there @simplybeautiful100)
 -something about how we're dealing with a lot of medical issues at the moment, 
but I trust His ultimate purpose -

I had someone ask this:

I mean no offense by this at all, but how do you find it in your heart to trust so completely and with out doubt or fear? It's beautiful and inspiring, 
I just wish my heart would be as open and at peace as yours is..
 
And I want to say that Instagram and Facebook and even this blog are my highlight reels.
I post what I want to post, so you read what I want  you to read.  Not that what I post isn't true, but usually social media is the "ups" - not the massive amounts of laundry that I never do or the 4-year-old screaming on the floor or the amount of homeschool prep left or house to be cleaned.
 
{without doubt or fear?}
i could laugh. or cry.
if you only knew.
 
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6 years ago
 
I laid on the white bed, the hospital gown covering me.
I tap-tap-tapped a text out on my old-style-flip-non-smart phone,
trying to calm my emotions and pass the time.
 
a friend called,
a dear, sweet, old friend.
 
I'm just so, so sorry, Anna.
she ended the conversation.
i'm so, so sorry,
tears coming for her and me,
we hung up.
 
they came to wheel me to the OR.
as we passed through the labor & delivery floor,
it was some special form of emotional torture to hear babies crying.
as I was headed for a d & c, a week after no heartbeat appeared on the ultrasound screen.

the physical pain of the procedure passed quickly, but the emotional pain lingered.
i hugged baby Grant, his toddler self patting my tears.
this third miscarriage was the hardest. we knew how fabulous children were and wanted more 
- so many more.

and I prayed. and prayed. and prayed.

and heard nothing.

I scoured my Bible for some sort of encouragement.

and heard nothing.


emotional drained,
i wondered where God was.

I LONGED to be one of those Christians filled with verses and belief and steadfastness.
i just wasn't.
 
 I doubted. 
I doubted my faith.
am I believing all the wrong thing?
is this actually going to help me?
is God actually listening?
 He doesn't care.

weeks passed.

the darkness of spiritual silence was closing in, threatening to suffocate my long-time faith.

God, where are you?

my heart cried out over and over.

that summer, 
I ran.
I ran harder and longer and faster than I've ever run before.
the pounding of the pavement became my therapy,
the music in my earbuds the song of my soul.
 
And after a few months of running hard and long -
besides being in the best shape of my life -
my spiritual life began to revive.
 
i realized that I was giving into my feelings.
feelings that God was silent, that God wasn't at work, that God had left me alone.
 
and though those feelings were legitimate, 
I chose to believe them rather than believe the truth of the Bible.
 
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One of the hardest and darkest times of my life,
losing a baby I named Josie Hope,
came a few years before I would walk through another very difficult season of medical diagnosis.
 
and those lessons I learned after the loss of Josie? 
i now had an opportunity to enact them.

and during the whole MS thing,
I chose to believe God when He says
{i am near the brokenhearted}
{be strong and courageous, for I am with you}
{Cast all your cares upon me, for I care for you}

 and now, in this season of one-thing-after-another -
even if some of it is small and not really earth-shattering, it's still 
{one.more.thing}

believe me,
i cry my overwhelmed tears.
i send friends texts, saying it's too much.
my heart cries out in the darkness of night,
i pray with all my heart as I lay next to a feverish baby,
and ultimately, I get myself together and choose to believe words like
i have loved you with an everlasting love.
i know the plans i have for you.
you will seek me and you will find me, when you seek me with all your heart.
call upon me and i will answer you.

so, that doubt and fear?
every day I wonder what the Lord is doing with our family.
so many medical issues in the past 4 months,
on top of trying to fly around the world to bring this beautiful boy,
{a boy we have held and loved and played soccer and taken swimming},
home.
 
of course I fear for the future.
if the past 4 months have been this hard what in the world will the next four bring?  What's really going on with Gracie? What's going on with my heart? will we all get better? Will we be able to take a vacation? I need the beach. ;-) Lord, get us better.  What will school look like next year?
 
but I stop myself.
be anxious for nothing. in everything, give thanks, and pray, 
and the peace of God will guard your hearts in Christ Jesus.

so, how do I trust so completely?
 
i don't really feel like I do, 
but I try.  when the worry and the doubt creep in,
i stop looking at my circumstances,
and start looking at my Savior.

for He is Bigger.  

always.  
He is Always bigger.
even when I don't feel like it.
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{my ways are not your ways, declares the Lord, and neither my thoughts are your thoughts}

MRI and Multiple Sclerosis




it happens every MRI.
that moment of panic.
complete panic.
i should be ready for it, 
but it takes me by surprise every time.
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i lie still against the table,
at least a warm blanket upon me.
i grip the emergency-i-need-out-ball,
smiling at the tech who's making silly jokes that I know are silly and he knows are silly but what else are you going to say to someone who's getting an MRI?
before he leaves the room, 
he asks me if I'm okay.
i'm saying that i'm fine.
and, for that moment,
i am fine.

the face guard and neck positioner are clamped down.
my head and neck and shoulders cannot move,
a tangible reminder of how smothering this disease felt at first diagnosis.

the board slides back into the machine.
at first,  i'm calm.
and then the whir-whir-whirring  and knocking and banging of the MRI get to me.
and every vrr-vrr-vrr of the loud machine gets louder and louder and the Christian radio through my huge ear phones gets softer and softer. 
the machine seems to speed up, speed up the noise and speed up my panic.
my heart beats faster.
get out,
get out, 
get out.

vrr-vrr-vrrr 

get out 
get out 
get out.

vrrr-vrr-vrrr
the machine goes in beat with my heart.
get out, it's telling me. run.

out of this tunnel,
out of this hospital,
out of this disease.

{i'm in my moment of panic}

i have a brief thought.
just get out.
be done.
i don't need a MRI.
symptoms are liveable.

{except they're not}

far away.
I smile and dream of our family someplace warm,
someplace eternal winter cannot effect.
someplace with yellow sun and sand.

and I stop. 
and I calm.
we love our life here.
MS is just a by-product.
a by-product that every single day,
does.not.bother me.
no panic.
no sense to run.
it's just a disease that the Lord has allowed me to live with.
 i calm.

 and as the machine goes whir-whir-whir,
my heart gets slower.
i remember a verse that encouraged me when we were young and living in this little tiny town that i really didn't like and struggling in ministry at our small little church.


...He marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their lands. God did this so that they would seek him and find him...

 and my inner-dialogue continues.
the Lord has me here.
in a place we love,
with friends we love,
in a church we love.

MS is just a by-product.

God has me HERE, for a specific reason...
...maybe even so that I will seek Him more.
harder. stronger. with more fervency, urgency, and a little bit of panic than my non-MS self ever would have.

and I calm.
and I pray.
I pray until the moment that if I pray any longer, I'm going to start crying in the machine,
and then the tech will think i'm truly a crazy person.

i calm.
i pray.
the season of life we're in has been hard.
God has allowed so much in our lives in the past 4 months.
so much good,  so much hard.
we're just waiting. waiting on a lot of answers.

and blessed are all who wait for Him.
Isaiah 30

by the end of the 1 and 15 minute MRI,
i am, once again, completely fine.
telling myself to stop panicking every time I'm in these crazy machines.
i leave, stop to get a coke,
and head home for a wonderful weekend.
i will await, albeit a bit nervously,
the results.
but hough I will never be strong enough to deal with this crazy disease,
MY GOD IS.

...when I am weak...then I am strong.

and for that?
my panic stops.